So, I want to share with you how I went from a scared, needy, desperate, depressed feeling state to one of hope, happiness and peace in a matter of just a few hours with nothing changing externally except my thoughts.
First, I very consciously decided that I didn’t want to feel bad anymore. How did I do this? I sat on the sofa very quietly and without judgment, I simply noticed how sad I was feeling. I also became aware of my compulsion to call my friends and tell them just how crappy I felt. They should know how bad it’s been for me. I knew I could get my best friend, my mother and my sister to jump right into my story with me, and, maybe, if I was lucky, they would tell me there’s…. I fantasized how the conversation would go, how I would feel and what the results would be….I knew I would feel no better than how crappy I felt now and nothing would change except the ticking of the clock. I would waste a whole lot of time telling my story,and further cement my thoughts by garnering others to feel sorry for me. This was all starting to sound very manipulative. I would rather have someone challenge me, and to lead my out of my sad story, but who? It was Sunday and I certainly couldn’t call my coaching buddies on their day off. It must be me, I decided. So, I hauled out my new self coaching model and put me and myself to work.
What do I want to feel? Peaceful, hopeful and outrageously happy & inspired
What thought would I need to have to feel this way? We will not lose everything
How would I behave if I had this thought? I would write articles, market my business more aggressively and sign up for an art class
What would the results be if I took these actions? Articles published (this happened the next week!), more business (I signed a new client the next day) and my art class starts January.
Remember in the part one how I said that the results are always evidence that the thought is true. Well, the same concept is also applied with a better feeling thought. If my articles get published; If I increase my profits by signing more clients; and If I continue to expand the right side of my brain, it would be impossible to lose everything.
This exercise so inspired me that I decided to compile a list of more thoughts that I wanted to believe. Here are a few:
I will gain something way bigger regardless of what happens.
Creating something for myself is in alignment with my essential self
The universe is telling me to be bigger than I am
Everything I need, I have
I don’t have to work harder, I just have to trust what I know
This I know is true.