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Build Me Up, Buttercup

“Wow! You’re so smart! That’s AMAZING!” Moms say stuff like this all the time. In fact, kids have almost come to expect it. But the problem with this kind of lavish, even unearned, praise is that it can hook us into believing our self-esteem is dependent upon others – and that means we can spend … read more…



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Why Ya Gotta be So Mean?

Sometimes, I am a jerk to myself. Sometimes, we all are. Case in point: last month, my husband and I did a picturesque biking tour of Nantucket and Martha’s Vineyard. 48 hours later, I hosted a three-day Coach’s Retreat in Atlanta. This was not my original plan. I have a lot of East coast clients … read more…



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What are you Tolerating? The Ultimate Guide for Setting Boundaries

My daughter, Lindsay just graduated from college in June and is traveling through Europe for five weeks with her best friend. They’ve been friends since they were tweens, and they’ve been planning this adventure since their sophmore year in high school. She’s been gone for three weeks and was having the time of her life—until … read more…



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Do You Have an Upper Limit Problem?

My heart was racing, I was shaking in my Havaianas (hey, I’m from California), and yet I couldn’t get the grin off my face. I was excited. But I was also freaking scared. 8 years ago, my mentor, Brooke Castillo, who had been managing Martha Beck’s Coach Training program at the time, asked me and … read more…



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How to Quell Your Inner Critic

I’ve been coaching a woman I’ll call Fran. Fran is a budding entrepreneur and is desperately trying to build traction in her online coaching business. Her overly critical mother exposed her to some pretty harsh beliefs early in childhood that she has adopted as her own. Her mother frequently told that her that she wasn’t … read more…



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